Why I Unfriended Every Single One of My Facebook Friends

Why I Unfriended Everyone On Facebook

Sometimes I wonder what my kids will be like when they (Lord-willing) become adults: Will my humorous, high-energy daughter focus her enthusiasm on something amazing? Will my sweet, creative daughter marry someone who will cherish her gentle spirit?

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Will my children love God?

What will their memories of me be like?

The questions and wonderings can swim around in my head until I have to shut off the “what-if’s” before those thoughts steal my joy of today.

And yet, one question remains: What will I regret?

I already know the answer.

I’ll regret being distracted. I’ll regret the times my oldest was trying to talk to me and I was too busy checking my Facebook news feed to really listen. I’ll regret the days when my youngest wanted me to read to her but I was too busy rushing around tidying up the house because I’d wasted time online.

I don’t know what events will someday stand out in my children’s minds, but I do know that I’ll deeply regret if most of their memories of me involve me looking at a bright screen instead of into their eyes.

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I shouldn’t live in a state of “What if’s,”
but asking myself what I’ll regret can be a valuable tool.

Because when I can get into my future brain for a few minutes and think back to my current self, I can clearly see what I should be doing.

And you know what I shouldn’t be doing? I shouldn’t be checking social media when I could be fully involved in the things that are happening right in front of me. I shouldn’t be distracted from real life.

So I evaluated my online time. I wrestled within myself. I spent months praying, thinking, and noticing.

I noticed that my kids are better-behaved when I stay away from my phone. I realized my high-energy daughter displays a quieter spirit when I snuggle up to read to her in an unrushed manner. I was reminded that my soft-spirited daughter shares her heart when the electronics are off and we’re working side-by-side on things like laundry and baking.

I noticed the days I kept all electronics 100% off, we accomplished more tasks, had more fun, and went to bed with that satisfied-exhausted feeling that only occurs after a productive, full day of work, play, and being connected.

girlsI also noticed that I didn’t have too many of those days before I felt the all-too-familiar tug of the Internet luring me back in. E-mails piled up, my Facebook news feeds grew, Pinterest had so many great things to pin…

Finally I had enough. I felt like I was in one of those slow-motion parts of movies, where the world starts spinning around, all of the noise blurs together, and the main character grows dizzier and dizzier until he cover his ears, curls into a ball, and shouts, “QUIET!”

I told my kids I was sorry. That I’d had enough. That I hated to be online again, but I needed some time to myself so I could break free from the Internet. They watched a movie and I got to work.

I deleted every single Facebook friend (although I did add my husband back when he asked), I “Unliked” about 40 pages, I left time-consuming groups, and I wrote a big status that I made public so if people search for me, they’ll be able to read it and know that my unfriending frenzy had nothing to do with them and everything to do with me.

And I didn’t stop at Facebook. I deleted over 25,000 e-mails. I unsubscribed to no less than 50 e-mail lists (2 dozen the first day, and a couple dozen more since). I unfollowed several Pinterest boards.

It took hours. And you know what? I didn’t feel free right away. I felt mad.

There was nothing left to distract me from real life, and I felt serious social-media withdrawals. But I stuck it out.

And now, a few weeks later? I can’t imagine why I ever wasted so much time on Facebook. I love not knowing everything that’s going on with practically everybody I’ve ever met. I can still text, call, or e-mail whoever I need to talk to. People can contact me directly as well. I’m calmer. I feel like I have more time in my day.

I do still get online, but now it’s intentional. Basically, family needs to trump electronic time.

Will I ever regret this decision? I don’t think so. I’ve never heard of anyone who looked back on their life and said, “Oh, I just wish I’d ignored real life more and wasted more time on electronics.”

Quite the opposite. I’ve heard of people saying, with deep, heart-wrenching regret that they wish they’d been there more. For their kids. For their spouse. For their church family. They wish they’d obeyed God. They wish they’d focused on the important things.

That’s what I want – to focus on the important things. To spend time on what really matters. I can add social media back to my life later, but I can never make my kids young again.

I only get one shot at raising them.

I want to be all in.

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Fun Updates about My Books, My Blog, Pinterest and More

(NOTE: This week only, you can download my entire collection for just $0.99. Keep reading to see how.)

My husband and I have been busy workers on Amazon!

My eBook “101 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Moms” is now available on Amazon for just $0.99! (Don’t worry – blog subscribers will still receive their copy for free!)

This book has also been updated with several new links to help further expand on some ideas within the eBook.

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My other eBook “28 Days to Timeliness” has been updated
with all working links (a few in the book were no longer current), among a few other little things (plus, it’s on sale this week for $0.99, so now is a great time to buy if you haven’t done so yet).

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And I updated my Amazon Author Page!
It has a new(ish) photo, direct links to my books, and an updated author description.

NOTE: If you’ve read either of my books and found one or both of them to be beneficial, will you please leave a review on Amazon soon? It would be very helpful for potential readers to be able to see more reviews about my books, particularly on “101 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Moms.” Thank you so much!

In addition to Amazon updates, I’ve been a busy worker on my blog!

I improved my “About Me” Page with a little more content about myself and an updated family photo (plus a confession about my declutter obsession!).

I also updated my Contact Page which now includes direct links to my Facebook page, links to my book pages, information about where to start if you’re new, and more.

The first tab in the sidebar to your right has been updated as well, with links to all of my products in one easy-to-find location. You can download my entire collection for just $0.99 this week only, so make sure to check those links out!

That’s not all – I’ve also updated my Pinterest boards!

My home has recently become gluten-free and dairy-free due to sensitivities and intolerances, and my only Gluten-Free, Dairy-Free board had become one big mess.

So I separated things out and I now have GF, DF Information and Substitutions; GF, DF Recipes I Have Made (complete with notes about any substitutions I made and what my family thought of the final result); and a board for GF, DF Recipes I Want to Try (I just bought blueberries to make these muffins this week!).

Many of the recipes I’ve pinned are great for gluten and dairy eaters as well (like this incredible pizza sauce recipe) so take a look around on there if you haven’t yet!

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Gluten Free, Dairy Free Dessert Tray (Truffles, No-Bake Cookies, and Fudge)

I also created a Small Home Ideas board so I can pin ideas to use if my family someday moves to a tiny house in the country. (I need help with this board, so if you know of any great articles or photos online, please let me know!)

And of course, many of my other Pinterest Boards have new pins as well.

How to Reach Me

I’ve already told you about my updated contact page, and I’m sure you know you can leave comments on my blog posts, but did you know that, if you’re a subscriber, you can reply directly to the subscription e-mails you receive in your inbox? Several people have done that and it’s a great way to quickly let me know what you’re thinking or to ask a question, particularly if you’re not comfortable posting those thoughts online.

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How are you doing with your 2014 Goals?

I plan to publish an update about my January progress on Friday, January 31. I’m looking forward to hearing about your progress as well!

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Reminder: please take a minute to leave a book review on Amazon if either of my books were helpful to you.
Thank you so much!

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“28 Days to Timeliness” on sale for just $0.99 this week only!

Did you make a New Year’s Resolution to start being on time this year? If not, should you have made a goal about timeliness?

Well, guess what?! I am the perfect person to help you with your timeliness goals and resolutions because I’ve been there, done that (sometimes am still there) and because my eBook, “28 Days to Timeliness: Tips and Confessions from a Semi-Reformed Late Person” is on sale on Amazon for just $0.99 this week only!

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Go here
to purchase your copy. Already have a copy? Tell your friends about it so they can buy one!

If you’ve read my book and found it helpful, please leave a review on Amazon.

Thank you so much for your support everyone!

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Giveaway Reminder – Last Day to Enter!

TimeKeeperJust a quick reminder: Today is the last day to enter the giveaway for a Time Keeper 2014 Planner. Go here for details.

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Duck Dynasty – Hate Speech or Free Speech?

I know I don’t usually talk about politics, but today I decided it’s time to use my voice.

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By now most of us have heard that Duck Dynasty’s Phil Robertson has been fired from the show. The reason? When asked what sin is, he mentioned homosexuality. Some people were very angry, accused him of hate speech, and demanded that A&E do something about it.

Personally, I find this quite ironic. Phil Robertson is being hated on by people accusing him of hate speech. Last I checked, the word for that is hypocrite.

How is it that in a culture full of tolerance and love all around, the one thing that isn’t tolerated is Christianity?

We’re asked to accept customs from other religions and beliefs in schools but can’t even mention the Bible.

On television, homosexual relationships have been portrayed as the norm, when in fact they’re the minority (about 3.8%). Why? Do TV networks do this so they can be politically correct? For who? Everyone but Christians?

The people who are screaming in outrage at the “injustice” of Phil’s “Hate Speech” are the very people who are crying out against Christianity. Isn’t that a hate speech of it’s own?

Things like this concern me.

We stand silently by, some of us apathetic, many of us unsure how to help, and we hope and pray for the best. But, we do nothing. It’s time for us to seriously think about the future. If we don’t start to take a stand, then our children are going to have a a very difficult time trying to teach others about God. If we simply watch helplessly, our children, or maybe even our friends, could be thrown into jail for hosting Bible Studies. And this isn’t just about our lives. It’s about souls and eternity.

“He who loves his life will lose it, and he who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life. If anyone serves Me, let him follow Me; and where I am, there My servant will be also. If anyone serves Me, him My Father will honor.” John 12:25-26 (NKJV)

It’s time that Christians stop being the silent majority and start standing up for our beliefs. We can choose to stop watching A&E, we can write to Phil and his family to let them know we support them standing by their beliefs, we can pull our kids out of public schools, and we can give a few of our hard earned dollars to show our support to companies we value (Chick-Fil-A, anyone?).

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Call me drastic if you want, but until we start taking drastic measures, nothing will improve.

What about you? What ideas do you have for standing up for what you believe in?

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Updates: my Pinterest account, share buttons, and comment replies

Want to know what I’ve been doing a lot of lately? Eating my words. Seriously. For example, I just warned against getting drawn into Pinterest last Wednesday. By last Saturday, I had my own account and was pinning away.

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I admit it: those of you who told me to give Pinterest a try were right, and I was wrong. I especially love all of the simple recipes I’m finding on there. I thoroughly enjoyed posting about books I love. I also have boards for camping recipes, dinner and dessert recipes, intentional living, motherhood, time-saving tips, and more. I’m enjoying sharing recipes with my friends. And I love that my eight year old found a simple chore idea and printable on a friend’s account and created a cleaning bucket for herself and her sister!

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I’m new to this and would love for you to send me links to your pins that you think I’ll enjoy (I’m especially looking for very simple recipes right now). So go ahead and check out my Pinterest page, then follow me if you’d like!

In addition to opening a Pinterest account, there’s something else new around here – my techie husband set up share buttons for me! So now when you read an article you really like, you can pin, post to twitter, share on Facebook, e-mail, etc. with one easy click! I’m really excited about that new feature!

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My husband is also working on having e-mails sent to readers after someone replies to their comment, but it may be a bit before that’s ready. In the meantime, I want all of you to know that I respond to every single comment on my blog. So if you’ve ever left a comment, take a look around to find my reply!

Happy back-to-school week, I hope your school year is off to a blessed start!

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Fresh Home eBook Bundle: Organizing, Cleaning, and Time Management Tools You Need to Get Your Home Clean and Tidy

{SPECIAL NOTE: This sale is now over, but each eBook can still be purchased individually!}
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I’m just going to come right out and say it – I’m a horrible sales person. At my first yard sale, people would pick up items they were thinking about buying and I’d say something like, “It feels so great to have that out of my house; our home is so much cleaner without all this junk in it!” Then the person would respond with, “Yeah, I should do that to my house too” before putting the item down and walking away. You’d think I’d eventually realize the error of my ways and stop talking, but no. I kept making those comments. All. Day. Long.

In addition to being a terrible salesperson, I’m always thinking of ways to get items cheaper or figuring out how to just re-purpose what I already have instead of buying something else, and I love helping other people find great deals as well. I’m the person who will say, “You don’t need to buy that book! Borrow my copy!” Or, if I don’t have the book? I’ll offer to lend a friend’s copy. (I’m sure my friends love it when I lend their stuff out to people they don’t even know!)

So, perhaps needless to say, advertising something that’s for sale makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. I do however love to pass along information about great deals that I think will be beneficial to other people. With this in mind, I’m going to go ahead and let you know about a great deal on two topics that I’m passionate about – organization and time management, which also happens to be perfect timing for the new school year!

A Bowl Full of Lemons and Clean Mama have come together to bring you an amazing set of e-books and tools. These fantastic resources will help you get your house clean and organized and your time in order. This exclusive bundle will only be available until 11:59 p.m. EST this Thursday, August 15th, so grab yours now! While this bundle is valued at over $100, it is available to you, our readers, for only $15 (or less than $1.00 per e-book or tool)! “Fresh Home” is the perfect bundle to get you back on track as a new school year begins and new routines are being implemented in your home.

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CLEANING
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Clean Enough: Simple Solutions for the Overwhelmed Homemaker is packed full of practical tips and advice to encourage you in your high calling and help you become a less-stressed housewife.
($5.99)
Christine has put together an easy step-by-step plan for you to create your own cleaning schedule that fits your lifestyle, your preferences, and your family. It will help you Create Your Perfect Cleaning Schedule.
($10.00)
Cleaning Around the Seasons is a comprehensive guide for anyone that needs to do some deep cleaning and doesn’t know how to start or where to fit it in to a busy schedule. With an easy to read style and quick start approach, you can read it and get started all in the same day.

ORGANIZING
($4.99)
Inside this easy 50 page read you’ll find a new approach to starting down the road to a simplified and more organized life. Rather than instructions on how to fold your T-shirts or organize your pantry, you’ll take a look at your daily habits and weekly routines to start thinking differently about how to efficiently spend your time.
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Can you imagine being able to find ANY piece of paper in your house anytime you needed it? 10 Steps to Organized Paper will motivate, encourage and walk with you step by step while you turn your mountains of paper into organized systems.
($3.99)
Getting It Together is an ebook designed to help you set up your own Home Management System that works. It includes a step-by-step tutorial, and over 30 printables that you can use to start your system right away!
($5.00)
Getting organized is the key to keeping busy moms sane. As a professional organizer (and mother of two active boys), Sara Pedersen shares her favorite tips and easy processes to guide you to an organized, efficient, happy life. You’ll learn how to organize your time, your clutter, your kids, and the abundance of paper and other things in your busy life.
($10.00)
Emergency Preparedness outlines step by step directions on how to put together an Emergency Survival Station in your home. The E-Book also comes with a “printables kit” for the Emergency Binder with several pages to fill out your family information.
Need a bit more simple in your life but unsure where to start? Simple Living is written for you. Using minimalist principles Lorilee has created a 30 day course, taking less than 1 hour a day that she guarantees will give you a simpler life.
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All of us want to be more organized…and here are secrets and strategies for doing just that! In this ingenious book, the authors of “Who Knew? 10,001 Easy Solutions to Everyday Problems” reveal how to clear clutter once and for all, with ingenious organizing ideas, secrets for repurposing items you already have at home, and much, much more. “Who Knew? Get Organized Now!” uncovers hundreds of tips and ideas to help you clear away clutter and become more organized than ever before!

TIME MANAGEMENT
($2.99)
Tell Your Time: How To Manage Your Schedule So You Can Live Free outlines Amy’s straightforward, step-by-step approach to controlling your schedule and ensuring the important things don’t fall through the cracks.
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Full of useful tips and funny confessions, “28 Days to Timeliness” is packed with practical information that will help teach you how to manage your time so you can be on time.
($19.95)
“How To Get Organized” is designed to help you organize your time better. It includes pre-made schedules and lists along with information to help you make your own customized schedules.

TOOLS
($7.00)
JOYS Babysitter Notebook is a simple pdf for busy moms who want to empower their babysitters to make the best choices, no matter the situation.
($10.00)
Citrus Paper Company’s complete home binder printable set includes ALL of their binder printables to keep your life and finances organized and beautiful!
($10.00)
Clean Mama Printables’ Cleaning Kit is a comprehensive tool sure to streamline your cleaning routine and maximize the time you spend cleaning. This simple, printable kit has six original documents and introduction sheet that can be used together or separately – any way that works for you!
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{SPECIAL NOTE: This sale is now over, but each eBook can still be purchased individually!}

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Time Management eBook Bundle – 5 eBooks for just $7.40!

BundleoftheWeek.com, 5 eBooks for $7.40!If you haven’t purchased my book “28 Days to Timeliness” yet, now is a great time to buy it because for this week only you can get my book plus four others for just $7.40!

“Tell your Time” by Amy Lynn Andrews was the very first time management book I’d ever read and it helped me to realize that I am in control of my own time, not a victim to it. There is enough time in our days, and we just need to learn how to prioritize and make the most of the time we’ve been given.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and like you don’t have enough time to do the things you need to do, or if you want to learn to be a better manager of your time, then I highly recommend purchasing this bundle – it will be $7.40 well spent!

BundleoftheWeek.com, 5 eBooks for $7.40!

Here’s more information from the Book Bundle website that includes a description of each eBook:

Running a household, caring for children and still finding time to pursue your passions is not an easy order, but this week’s bundle is designed to give you the tools to make the most of the 24 hours you’re given each day. Discover tips for creating schedules and routines, the importance of rest, strategies to help you be on time and more!

Get this bundle for almost 60% off this week only.

Tell Your Time by Amy Lynn Andrews
Tell Your Time: How To Manage Your Schedule So You Can Live Free outlines Amy’s straightforward, step-by-step approach to controlling your schedule and ensuring the important things don’t fall through the cracks. It’s short and to the point with no fluff or filler. This little ebook will help you accomplish not only what’s on your to-do list today, but what’s on your to-do list for life.

Honoring the Rhythm of Rest by Daniele Evans
In a culture where many of us are simply moving too fast and pausing less often for a break, for time off or for intentional rest, Daniele offers a better way. Honoring the Rhythm of Rest will encourage and equip you to understand the meaning of true rest; to ask of yourself ,”Am I living intense, or intentional?”; to counteract the myth of doing it all; to consider 3 intentional ways to practice rest; and to journey back from burnout!

28 Days to Timeliness by Davonne Parks
Two years ago, Davonne began working on becoming more timely, and she decided then that if she could ever figure out how to be on time, she’d write a book about it.  Throughout her journey, she discovered what makes some people late, tips and tricks other people use to be on time and how to enjoy freedom and spontaneity within boundaries as she made significant progress in her own life. In 28 Days to Timeliness, she shares 28 short, easy-to-read segments that take just a few minutes to go over each day with a practical course of action to help you be on time.

Creating a Schedule That Works by Marlene Griffith
In Creating a Schedule That Works, Marlene offers you the tools to help you create and implement a schedule that works for you and your life. Her simple, straight-forward approach shows you how to break your day into bite-sized pieces by scheduling four blocks of time in your day to help you meet the demands of your day-to-day life.

The Homemaker’s Guide to Creating the Perfect Schedule by Amy Roberts
With plenty of charts, printables, examples and links, The Homemaker’s Guide to Creating the Perfect Schedule includes step-by-step instructions for creating the perfect homemaking schedule as well as a bonus section on creating the perfect homeschooling schedule. Amy shows you how to work with your unique family dynamics, how to make a schedule stick, how to delegate chores and more!

The Time Management for Families bundle is only available through 8am EST on Monday, 6/24. Get yours today:
BundleoftheWeek.com, 5 eBooks for $7.40!

Click here to purchase your bundle!

PS If you’d like to read even more about Time Management, subscribe to this blog to receive your FREE copy of my eBook “101 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Moms.” Go here for details.

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Free Printable for Facebook Fans!

Many of you know that I’ve written two eBooks. “28 Days to Timeliness: Tips and Confessions from a Semi-Reformed Late Person” is currently available for just $2.99 and “101 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Moms” is FREE to blog subscribers.

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A big theme throughout both books is to be intentional – we can’t always be on time or save a lot of time if we’re consistently squandering time. So, for a little daily reminder, I asked Joy from Five J’s Design to create an Intentional Living Subway Art printable that I could give to my readers.

I’m excited to announce the printable artwork is ready and it’s on my Facebook page! To receive your FREE printable, “Like” me on Facebook if you haven’t already, then click on the “Fans-Only Content” directly under the “Like” button. After that, just click on the image, then print it. Easy, peasy!

Intentional-LivingPrintableYou can print in color or black and white. I chose color.

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If you’re excited about this little freebie, please help me spread the word by sharing this information with your friends!

Happy Monday!

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“101 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Moms” book link updated information, plus a Facebook Giveaway

If you subscribed to my blog, you should have the link to my new eBook at the bottom of your RSS feed update today!

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If you haven’t subscribed yet, just type your name into the subscription bar to your right so you can receive my book in the next e-mail that goes out.

NOTE: When you subscribe, you will receive an activation e-mail in your inbox. Make sure to click on the link in that e-mail in order to receive your free book.

When you see the eBook link, all you need to do is click on it and save the book to your computer. Feel free to print some or all of my book to put in a binder or to hang up around your home.

If you don’t see the eBook link in your news feed, or if you have any questions, please e-mail me.

Not sure what all the hype is about my new book? Go here for details!

PS I’m hosting a little giveaway today on Facebook, so hop on over to enter, but hurry because it ends at 9:00EST tonight (March 22, 2013)!

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